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October 2022           Vol. IV Issue 4
"Conversations"
In this issue:
From the Minister
Music Schedule for October 2022
UU Service Committee message
We're all neighbors
Poetry Corner
Introducing:
Birthdays in October
Conversations 
September Board Meeting and Committee Reports
Tidings Notes
UUCSV Leadership
Contact
From the Minister
 
I just returned from speaking at a conference in Michigan this past weekend. The topics were of a philosophical, metaphysical, and spiritual nature, and the speakers were indeed excellent as they are experts in their fields. Of course during these discourses, inevitably the topic of "facts" and " truth"  raise their heads.  The discussions get very lively and at times heated. This is what I have decided or "discovered" after these discussions. 
 
Most of us live our lives based on facts. Some facts are based on actual knowledge and experience and others are grounded in speculation. Truth however, always unfolds into a deeper level of understanding. Facts are often defended with statistics that support the position being promoted. Truth, which cannot be measured, needs no defense.  In our day to day experience of living, we often fail to recognize or understand that there is a desert and a sea between a fact and the truth.
 
A fact is a temporary condition or situation. The truth is a constant presence. A fact is subject to change and alteration. The truth is immutable because it never changes. A fact can represent the truth, or it can be based solely on speculation. The truth represents power and the presence of a deeper reality. Facts stimulate the intellect. Truth opens the heart. A fact begins with a premise that requires more facts to prove a conclusion. The truth is the conclusion.   The truth must be reckoned with. You may not always be able to trust a fact. You can always trust the truth.
 
The fact is that most of us live our lives based on facts. The truth is, until you understand that there is a truth about you of which you may be unaware, you will not be able to move beyond the influence of facts. Perhaps this fact will change as you learn to trust that there is a deeper level of truth that exists and is available to you.  The truth is that you and I are beings of love. Just because we forget that fact, does not make it untrue.
 
The month of October is upon us and the season of autumn reflects to us how beautiful it can be to let go. Enjoy the season...
 
Be well!
 
Rev. Michael J. S. Carter
 
 
 
 
 
October
Poet: Paul Laurence Dunbar


October is the treasurer of the year,
And all the months pay bounty to her store;
The fields and orchards still their tribute bear,
And fill her brimming coffers more and more.

But she, with youthful lavishness,
Spends all her wealth in gaudy dress,
And decks herself in garments bold
Of scarlet, purple, red, and gold.

She heedeth not how swift the hours fly,
But smiles and sings her happy life along;
She only sees above a shining sky;
She only hears the breezes' voice in song.

Her garments trail the woodlands through,
And gather pearls of early dew
That sparkle, till the roguish Sun
Creeps up and steals them every one.

But what cares she that jewels should be lost,
When all of Nature's bounteous wealth is hers?
Though princely fortunes may have been their cost,
Not one regret her calm demeanor stirs.
 
Music Schedule for October 2022
 
October 2-  Musical Tribute to Phil: Encore, Sue Stone, David Reid, Ginger Kowal and Linda Metzner
 
 
October 9-  Second Sundays: Alison Tynes Adams, voice with Linda Metzner, composer and piano.  Linda Metzner, 2 hymns, prelude and postlude
 
 
October 16-  Linda Metzner, 3 hymns, prelude, postlude and offering
 
 
October 23-  UUCSV Choir, 2 anthems; Sue Stone, prelude, postlude and 2 hymns

 
October 30-  Samhain with Peggy Moore:  Linda Metzner, prelude, postlude and hymns.
 
 
UU Service Committee message
  
One year after the U.S. troop withdrawal from Afghanistan, thousands of our Afghan neighbors, allies, and friends are still without lasting protections. Temporary safety is not enough. 

Take action today to make sure Afghan families can rebuild their lives with dignity and security as permanent residents. 

The Afghan Adjustment Act would ensure that Afghan evacuees are no longer at risk for deportation to danger under the Taliban and provide the opportunity to reunite with their loved ones abroad from whom they are still separated. 

Most Americans assume the evacuees have established safe, permanent U.S. residency. In fact, resettled people live daily with worry about their ability to legally stay in the country once their temporary status lapses. 

All Afghan people brought to the United States during the evacuation have already been identified as being high-risk for retaliation and met standards for getting out of their home country due to safety concerns. The Afghan Adjustment Act would ensure a clear path for Afghan evacuees to live in the United States permanently.

If Congress does not act soon, Afghan evacuees will instead face more complex immigration processes with uncertain outcomes, requiring them to overcome obstacles ranging from lack of documentation to costly legal services.

Relocated Afghan families deserve a path to citizenship and the ability to establish permanent homes in the U.S. without the hardship of navigating an immigration system that was not adequately prepared for their arrival.

Please take just a few minutes now and urge Congress to immediately pass the Afghan Adjustment Act.

Thank you for supporting UUSC’s work advocating for the rights of displaced people around the globe, including this coalition effort to assist Afghan families. 
 
In solidarity,

    Hannah Hafter
    Senior Grassroots Organizer
    Unitarian Universalist Service Committee

 
 
 
We're all neighbors
 
A rain garden!
 
Great idea!
 
And then the design process, and then the actual digging and moving process! Then planting some shade and water tolerant plants! 
 
But wait, somehow in the middle of all the processes by various wonderful volunteer UU's the word leaked out to another group in our community! The Swannanoa WATER-shed Action Network wanted to see what UUCSV was doing for its rain garden. They asked if they could see it during their next weekly meeting, Friday, September 23. As it just so happened, Deb Evenchik, chair of our Building and Grounds Committee, was free at that time, as well as a couple more UUs who joined the meeting out at the "dirt to become garden."
 
 
Deb's "Major take-aways from our meeting with the Swannanoa WATER-shed Action Network"
  • Our plan for a rain garden is seen as a very positive initiative, and one that will assist with water management for the Town as a whole
  • We have some opportunities to handle more rain water at the source, which are the gutters on the building and also the parking lot. Some of these opportunities include adding rain barrels off of the gutters and adding plantings around the parking lot
  • We appear to be on the right track in terms of the types of plantings we are planning
  • We have a source for free wood chips, which were suggested as being better than mulch, in that wood chips absorb water, and then allow the water to evaporate.
 
This meeting was a great example of how different groups who are neighbors come together for a common purpose, demonstrating how we all are one community. Two of the candidates for the Black Mountain Town Council also came to this meeting.
 
The Swannanoa WATER-shed group uses WATER to stand for:
When All Thrive, Earth Regenerates. Here's its SwanWater.Org link. They are also on FaceBook.
 
Poetry Corner
 
Autumn's Majesty
 
Sun with his artistic touch,
streaks skies of blue with rosy blush,
trimming Oak and Maple too,
crimson reds with yellow hue.
 
Birch and Hemlock, purple and gold,
apples, pumpkins bright and bold,
burns by day and cools by nigh,
cloaking trees in fiery might.
 
Whispy winds and tumbling leaves,
cypress scents within the breeze,
starry eves and harvest moon,
sets the stage for crickets' tune.
 
As spiders spint their tapestry
and crickets sing in symphony,
their final song of destiny,
it's clear for all the world to see,
Autumn's vibrant majesty!
 
by Patricia L. Crisco
Published and copywrite by Family Friend Poems on 9/8/17
 

New music:
 
Pillars of Love
 
by Bill Altork
 
 
 
Introducing:
  Elizabeth Wallace
 
In her childhood, Elizabeth used her first name, Jane–until she discovered that both her grandmothers were called by her middle name, Elizabeth. Which is, of course, how we know her.
 
Elizabeth grew up a third-generation Irish Catholic, and her early job experiences planted the seeds of what would shape her life and career. At age 15, a summer job at the Institution for Retarded People exposed her to the mistreatment of those considered “other” in the 1950s. Imagine a decent-sized room with plain benches lining the four walls, and absolutely no decorations or details of interest. The benches were occupied by women of all ages and various emotional or mental abilities. When the petite, young, and naive' girl decided to engage the women to sing a song, the charge nurse shouted out, “Shut the f— up!” At that moment it was set in Elizabeth’s heart to help people.
 
Her second summer job directed her to the people she wanted to work with: anyone she wouldn’t ordinarily be around. So the Irish girl chose factory work at the Jackson Perkins Rose warehouse, where she worked with migrant workers.
 
These two experiences clearly set her passions aflame. After her undergraduate years at an all-Catholic girls college and earning a masters in Early Childhood Education, the single mother of three (ages 3, 5 and 7), worked with a Head Start program, infant care center, and first-time parents, among others. She also led father’s groups, teen mothers in the Kansas City Parents as Teachers program, worked with a Montessori school, and taught English as a Second Language at public school. In her most “professional” job, paid for by a grant, she spent seven years helping families and children affected by Thalidomide.
 
Later Elizabeth received her credentials in Montessori Philosophy, and in her late 60s she spent a year and a half at Duke University studying for her ESL credential–which she put to use for the next 10 years of her working life.
 
Of her three children, two, Peter and Jennifer, live in Chicago. Tragically, her youngest, Daniel, died during the Covid pandemic after a five-year battle with a diabetes-related illness. He was adopted; slender and 6’ tall, he was thought to be Mexican until he discovered that he was in fact a Native American of the Ottawa people in Oklahoma. 
 
Over her life Elizabeth moved from being Catholic to Episcopalian, then became a Quaker, and now finds her community at UUCSV–-though she still sees herself as Buddhist-–where she loves the Women’s Group and is a member of the Care Committee. A UU for eight years, her spiritual life informed her through her grieving process for her son. She gave herself permission to grieve for a full year, and learned that grief never dies because her love never dies.
 
Just as the UU community centers her, Elizabeth maintains her physical health through Tai Chi, meditation, healthful eating, walking, and–of course–reading. To say nothing of good old family genes. Both an extrovert and introvert, she spends most days (except Sundays!) doing solitary activities and nights in social environments. She also told me that she asked herself one day what she would regret not having done if she were on her deathbed. Her answer: poetry and textiles. And so she is dedicating the next chapter of her life to art.
 
Please welcome this extraordinary woman, Elizabeth Wallace–just as she welcomes you as an active member of our greeters team!
 
By Heidi Blozan
 
 
 
   old silk kimono
First life of Mulberry Tree
   Reincarnation 
 
Birthdays in October
 
Pam Sain 2
Geoff Stone 11
Diane Graham 15
Barbara Bryan  
Linda Tatsapaugh 30
 
 
To be listed in your birth month, just let the Tidings editor know by sending your info at any time to Tidings.uucsv@gmail.com
 
Conversations 
 
I was recently invited to a small birthday party for a woman who wanted to have a get together to celebrate her birthday because she said “I don’t remember how to social.” I went and realized my conversation skills could also use a brush up. I’ve been talking to people this whole time but so much of that happened online, and then only outside and 6 feet apart, and only recently does it feel like the environment is (almost) back to the way it felt pre-pandemic, but I’ve changed. It’s not as easy as it once was to engage in small talk, I have a much harder time approaching strangers. I’m hoping that it will come back to me, but I’m out of practice. If you are too and want to discuss moral questions with a group of UUs I’d like to invite you to join our conversations by filling out the form below: 
 
https://forms.gle/AsMAhow2uCWcrc9L7
 
If you have ideas for other adult RE offerings, Susan would love to have a chat with you!
 
Thanks, Susan Enwright Hicks

September Board Meeting and Committee Reports
 
UUCSV Board Meeting Abbreviated Minutes
Thursday, September 22, 2022
 
Treasurer’s Report
 
Our volunteer treasurer, Larry Pearlman, reported on two months into the fiscal year.  Plate offerings are a little below projections, but pledges are ahead because some pledges are paid in full, early in the fiscal year.  A motion was passed to add $650 from the Fryberger Endowment to the music program.  
 
Liaison Reports
 
Building and Grounds Committee:  (BAG)
Jackie summarized the attached report. The Board agreed that Building and Grounds Committee can remove the damaged fence section.
 
The Garden Committee:
Larry indicated that Phil Fryberger and Julia Jordan names will be engraved on the monument in the Garden.
 
Congregational Care: See the attached report.  
 
Membership Committee: 
 The Board will review the policy for removing persons who have left the church from our Member and Friends registry during their retreat. 
 
Communications Committee: This committee needs a chairperson. They are working on developing an organizational flow chart.
 
Religious Education (RE):
Susan reported that she is starting to transition to longer periods of teaching on Sundays.  The children’s age group is too wide to break into smaller groups.  She is seeing a modicum of interest in Adult RE.
 
Safety Committee
Marti reported that the door locking procedure during the Sunday Service is working well.  The Committee’s next action is to organize a congregational training & safety team to direct people during an unwanted intruder in the building.  Andy Reed has volunteered, and four others are needed.  A training for the congregation is being planned.  It was decided to talk about this at the retreat with Michael.
 
Larry raised the issue of a homeless person who wandered into the church during the service but just stayed around the public spaces without entering the sanctuary.  It was suggested that offering a pamphlet of resources to homeless visitors might be useful.  Sally offered to check with the library for an existing list before Rochelle works on pulling together a list from Buncombe County.
 
Social Action Committee (SAC) No report
 
3. Review and ratify the Organizational Chart for publishing.
 
Rochelle shared the latest version of the Organizational Chart from the Communication Committee.  There was a long discussion of how the chart should be organized and what information should be presented.  It was generally agreed that the Safety Committee should not be under Building and Grounds.  The Board agreed that they would look at the chart during the retreat and use the presented chart as a beginning point. 
 
The annual UUCSV Board Retreat will be held on Saturday, October 1st
 
Respectfully submitted by Milton Warden, Board Secretary
 
Next Regular Board meeting:  October 27th @ 6:00 p.m.
 
COMMITTEE REPORTS
 
Congregational Care Committee (CCC) Report
Carolyn Shorkey, Chair
 
The word ‘members’ includes members of the Caring Committee as well as members of the congregation.)
 
Five members have made and delivered a meal to a post-operative patient who is a member of our congregation.
Five members made extended home visits to a hospital discharged member and one person provided a meal.
Four members provided rides and phone consultations to a member who was temporarily without a car.
Four members have provided rides to church for two homebound members.
Five members have visited a nursing home resident who is a member of our congregation.
One member has made extended weekly visits to provide respite for a caregiver who is a congregant.
Three members made extended phone calls to a homebound person.
One member picked up groceries, made visits, and had extended phone calls to a homebound person.
Birthday, get well wishes, a sympathy card, and a thinking of you cards have been mailed to congregants.
 
The Caring Committee chairperson in consultation with Rev. Michael and two members of the CC committee decided to withdraw our support of a homebound resident of Swannanoa who is not a member nor a friend of UUCSV. Individual members of the congregation are certainly free to continue supporting this man as freestanding volunteers.
 
Three cases of COVID positive congregants have been brought to the attention of the committee. None of them have needed assistance at this writing.
 
Respectively submitted,
Carolyn Shorkey, Caring Committee Chairperson
 
Building & Grounds Committee - Action Summary August 2022 by Deb Evenchik
 
B&G completed the staining project on the playground sets
The library/pantry project was canceled with the Eagle Scout.
Two rhododendrons and some ferns were planted in front of the building on the north side.
The fees for non-member rental of the building were updated. We will continue to work to update policy documents for presentation to the Board.
The key code was changed and appropriate people notified.
Deb performed due diligence to determine if the neighbors want a say in whether we try to shore up the collapsing chain link fence section or remove that section. The recommendation by the B&G Committee is to remove the damaged sections of the fence, with the approval of the Board.
 
Membership Committee report by Heidi Blozan
 
At our last meeting, the board asked that I get clarification from the Membership Committee about the process used for determining which members have left the congregation.  (They had reported that 10 members left in the last year.)
 
I spoke to Carol Sheeler, who has taken on this task for several years.  She said that while there is no formalized process, she uses a combination of methods to make that determination.  First, in that count she gave us last month, two members died and three members had announced that they were leaving.  In other cases, Carol checks with the Treasurer after the pledge drive to see whether there was anyone who either did not pledge or who did not get back in touch with Lee.  She sends either an email or a letter to that person to inquire.  She also asks other members to see if they have any information.  If all discovery methods fail, that person is dropped.  Carol reports membership info to UUA.
 
She also mentioned that when the office computer was stolen they lost everything — all membership records.  They now have a new program for membership installed.
 
I raised the point that Michael mentioned, which is that there is a formal process for a UU member to leave or resign, which is to give written notice of their intent.  She pointed me to our Bylaws, Article III, dealing with membership.  Section 2 — Termination — states that termination may be accomplished by either written request to the Congregation delivered to the Minister or to the Board, or by action of the Board if it determines that a member no longer meets the criteria of Section 1. Section 1 states that a member is one who (among other requirements) declares an intention to support the Congregation according to ability with “time, energy and finances” and to continue that support.  There is no other formal process in our bylaws.  (By the way, Carol definitely does not make that determination.)  Section 3 covers the process for reinstatement of membership.
 
The board may wish to formalize a process for determining membership.  I think Carol and the Membership Committee would welcome that.
 
Note that Section 1 also states that the Member’s time, energy and finances should be in a “value exceeding the amount of the congregation’s fair share contribution to the UAA and the Southeast District and subsequently continues such support.”)   How is that determined?  Is that still valid?
 
Auction          
No report for September.
 
Endowment Fund 
No report for September.
 
Safety Committee by Marti Saltzman
The door-locking procedures seem to be working out well. The Safety Committe is working on the following:
1. Selection of 5 people to act as part of a Safety Team. This person / people would calm and direct people during any threatening event at UU. The Safety Team and the members of the Safety Committee would receive additional training from Officer Fineberg of the Black Mountain Police.
2. Training congregants on Safety Protocols. Our idea is to have a short meeting following a Sunday service in October. (We think this would be a good way to have the most people present.) We would show an FBI produced video that is about 4-1/2 minutes long. The video is called Run, Hide, Fight. We plan a short time afterwards to answer any questions.
3.  The plan is to keep this short and informative.
 
Submitted by Milt Warden, Secretary
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Tidings Notes
 
I was pretty isolated from direct human contact after February 2020 until June 2021, and then back into isolation again when variants pushed us back into pandemic mode. Winters were worst, because I couldn't meet friends outside for lunch. But I discovered finally in the summer of '22 that eating and sharing stories was deeper than anything I'd done in 2-1/2 years! 
 
Communication on line and by phone, can be deep at times, but there's no visual reactions (except by the cameras on computers, thank you very much!) and the nuances that a conversation offers are just missing. Pick a serious topic. What are your views on it? What are the views of the people around you? Do they actually differ? Does someone add information that you didn't know before?
 
The first small gatherings left me with a list of places to check out, or books to read about various subjects. I had thought I was learning stuff, but apparently not.
 
And I sometimes had information my friends didn't know about. Our separation over these 2 + years had meant a lot of experiences that we didn't share until we came back together. I now have a standing meet-up for lunch once a week with one group of friends, and another one meets once a month. Another loose group has formed that likes to go to neighboring towns to used-book stores!  I'm even planning to go to a pottery show in a few weeks with friends. These are so rich in my life. But with winter coming soon, will we continue to meet?
 
We recently went to a restaurant (indoors) that is a tourist attraction, so they have reservations, and want to get folks fed and out in a timely manner...so my group was asked to leave when we wanted to just keep talking and enjoying the view. I do prefer the places that let us converse after a meal. It's a richness beyond the nourishment of food! Each of us is struck by that condition from which we have been starved.
 
Thanks for the entries to Tidings submitted this month! Next month, November will be free of topic suggestion. So feel free to share whatever's on your mind. 
 
By Barbara Rogers

(on turning 80 I got a tiara)
UUCSV Leadership

 
Board of Trustees: 
 
Rochelle Broome - President
Sally Smith - Vice-President
Larry Pearlman - Treasurer
Rose Levering 
Jackie Franklin
Marti Saltzman
Dan Hadley
 
Non-board officer:
Milt Warden – Secretary

Committee Chairs:
Building & Grounds - Deb Evenchik 
Social Action - Jane Carroll (rotating)
Finance - Lee Reading
Nominating - Evan Yanik
Congregational Care - Carolyn Shorkey
Membership - Heidi Blozan
Personnel – Linda Tatsapaugh
Communications - Susan Culler (contact)
Governance – Evan Yanik
Religious Education - Contact RE Director Susan Enright Hicks
Coffee Hour Hosts Coordinator - Carolyn Shorkey
Sunday Service Associates - Diane Graham (rotating)
Strategic Planning Task Force - open
Memorial Garden - Dawn Wilson
Safety Committee - Marti Saltzman
Stewardship - Dan Hadley

Sunday Service Production:
AV producer/editor - Evan Yanik and Deb Evenchik
Music director and piano - Annelinde Metzner
Sue Stone, piano

 
Contact
 
Unitarian Universalist Congregation of the Swannanoa Valley
500 Montreat Road
Black Mountain, NC 28711
 
(828) 669-8050 (email preferred during pandemic)
 
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