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Procrastination doesn't serve anyone well in their life and if it's a
habit you've picked up, it's time to stop. Let's look at a couple of
common reasons for procrastination, and ways to change your behaviors and
habits.
 Lack of Interest:
If you aren't interested in a project and can't find a
way to change that, set goals to accomplish something that interests you.
Reward yourself for reaching those goals. Always try to work when you're
at your best – physically and mentally – to optimize efficiency. Make the
rewards real; if you don't reach your goals, you don't get your reward.
Fear of Failure:
If you find yourself avoiding a task because you're
worried you can't do it well enough, sit down and visualize the task being
completed. Think about how you will feel about successful results.
Keep that vision with you as you work on the project. Work towards success
and assume that failure is not an option.
Too Distracted:
Remove any possible distractions and create a series of
small goals. Complete one small task at a time and then move on to the
next one on the list until you've finished. Some find it helpful to
self-limit, such as deciding that you won't get up from the desk until you've
finished the first five tasks, or not opening any other browser windows until
an article is written.
Undecided:
If you can't figure out a course of action and this is
preventing you from even starting your project, create deadlines for
yourself. By giving a deadline for decisions and task completion,
especially if you share these deadlines with others, you force yourself to make
necessary decisions that ensure progress.
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 Marriage,
being a commitment that is intended to last a lifetime, has taken a
hard hit in recent decades, and by that I am referring specifically to
the high rate of divorce and the "as long as we both shall feel like
it" attitude that seems to surround the institution as a whole. One
reason for this may be that many people are not reaching out and using
the tools available to them to keep their marriage alive and spicy. To
breathe a little life into your marriage, you might consider:
- Taking a
trip on which the entire purpose of your travels is to spend good
connective time together. Look for locations with a romantic
atmosphere, and activities that the two of you can do together. If
there is a special interest you both share, that might be a good place
to start planning. Take advantage of special offers and plan to splurge
on each other a little bit.
- Take
communication, healing, or spiritual classes together. These are
good opportunities to learn and grow as individuals and will give
you new skills to bring back to your relationship.
- Set aside
uninterrupted time - that isn't over a meal - to talk each day. This
will be valuable connective time that you can keep no matter how
busy your schedule gets.
- Speak each
other's love languages. Learn more about what makes your partner feel
loved and cared for, and keep that in mind when trying to show them how
you feel.
- Go on
actual dates! That's right - dress up, leave the house, spend time out
in public with the express intention of being on a date. This means
paying attention to eachother, touching each other (in a socially
acceptable way of course!) and creating an experience for just the two
of you.
- Go on
adventures. Studies have shown that experiencing new things together is
a vital part of what sustains the magic bond that glues two people
together. That constant bond is even more powerful than increasing
levels of support during difficult times (which is vital to the health
of a relationship, but in a different way).
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 How
does self awareness relate to your career, you ask? It is quite simple
really: when you are self aware, you are able to see clearly all that
is around you, including your work reality. You will be able to perform
to your highest abilities, know yourself well enough to be able to ask
for what you need, and inform others of your abilities, expectations
and interests. You will also be able to understand your mistakes, and
admit to them – something that goes further in the business world that
most of us ever consider.
If you are seeking employment, be
assured that a strong sense of self awareness will go a long way in
making a good impression on any potential employer. During a personal
interview, the interviewer is not just listening to the literal answers
that you give to their questions; they are also watching your body
language and listening to what you are telling them about yourself. If
you seem self-aware, confident, and knowledgeable, both about your
field and yourself, your chances of landing the job are much higher.
If
you are already employed, you have the opportunity to upgrade your work
environment through self-awareness. When you encounter problems at
work, use your skills to determine what the problem really is, and what
your contribution to the solution can be. In moving up the corporate
ladder, if that is your path, knowing that you are ready for that next
rung up and being able to communicate that clearly and honestly with
the people responsible for granting that promotion is an essential
skill. Self awareness skills are also beneficial when it comes to goal
setting, time management, and building healthy work relationships.
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Exercise
is an often overlooked way of ensuring a healthy, happy life. Physical
health, however, extends much further than the state of the body – it
also affects us mentally
and emotionally. Exercise is a great way to relieve minor depression,
increase energy levels and stamina, speed up metabolism, sleep better
at night, and so on. If you are looking for ways to increase the
vitality of your life, look to physical activity. Let's look at the
benefits of exercise in terms of both success and happiness.
We all want to be successful in our lives, including in business and
career arenas, in our personal goals, in building a family and
maintaining friendships, etc. All of these things contribute largely to
our sense of happiness. Happiness is the responsibility of an
individual, and what makes each person happy varies, but there are
usually a few common threads that emerge.
In
regard to exercise, there are a number of ways that you might view
working out as a vehicle for increasing your success. Obviously, there
are the personal goals involved with having a strong, healthy body.
There is the sense of achievement when exercise goals have been
reached, and a sense of self confidence that arises both from the
achievement and from the physical appearance that comes with a healthy,
fit body. Similarly, the uplifting effects of accomplishing something,
particularly if it's challenging, can influence us beyond the momentary
post-workout bliss, and actually inspire us to success in other areas
of our lives. Certainly, the increased energy levels will be vital in
achieving goals and conquering problems. All said and done, the
benefits of exercise far outweigh any excuse one might have to avoid it!
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Time Management Tips
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In
order to successfully manage time, you need to first accept that there
are only twenty four hours in each day, and you can't possibly work for
all of them. You also cannot bend time, or change it to fit your needs.
All you can do is do your best to fit everything you want to get done
into your schedule and then stick to it. If you're ready to change how
you manage your time:
- create a list of everything you need to get done and prioritize the tasks.
- look for ways you can avoid wasting time.
- set time limits on projects and stick to them.
- plan each day in advance so you know what you are doing.
- use planning tools, such as calendars and scheduling software.
- say no to projects you don't have time for.
- eliminate distractions to help you focus better.
- evaluate your time management skills periodically and make changes as necessary.
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Conflict Resolution
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Most
people are made uncomfortable by conflict. It can bring up very primal
urges of fight and flight, leaving you with a pounding heart, a flushed
face, and very on-edge feeling. In order to resolve conflict, it is
important that both parties are able to talk, and listen, to the other
person. The most desirable way to resolve a conflict is to find a
win-win solution, that is, a solution where both parties are satisfied
with the outcome.
When sitting down and talking one-on-one
doesn't lead to a solution, it may be time to bring others in.
Mediation and counseling are two methods that are commonly known to aid
in conflict resolution between co-workers, family members, and
partners. In these scenarios, a neutral third party agrees to listen to
both sides and facilitate problem-solving between the two conflicting
parties.
When in doubt, take a deep breath and
remember that the other person feels the same way you do, and if you
work together, you can both feel good about the results.
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Helping your ADHD Child at Home
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Children
with ADD and ADHD often benefit from an organized home life with a very
clear structure and routine. As you well know, these aren't the strong
points of anyone with an attention disorder, and so it can be very
helpful to have that built-in to their home life. This will create a
more pleasant and relaxed (stress-free, even) environment for everyone-
parents, children, and siblings.
One way to help keep your child
on track is to provide them with a daily list of what they need to do,
complete with little boxes where they can check off what they've gotten
done. Each morning, when your child gets up to go to school, they can
consult their list, which will tell them exactly what they need to do:
get dressed, eat breakfast, take medication, brush teeth, make sure
backpack is packed, etc. This list gives them a reference point to come
back to if they get distracted, and helps to ensure that you don't
spend your whole morning chasing after them to get things done. The
list technique works for all kinds of things, and can be a very
satisfying way for a child to experience a sense of accomplishment when
they see their list with everything checked off on it.
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